I've been thinking a lot about this concept that I'm trying to grasp. It's the principle of allowing other people to be and do what makes them fulfilled and not letting it affect my experience. I have a very strong sense of self. Being positive about myself, the things I'm working on accomplishing etc. It's very easy for me to stay focused and positive about the things I have control over: my business, my body, my soul, my home. But it's very difficult for me to be unaffected by the actions of outsiders.
Baby steps. I have been working on not being affected by strangers. Like if a crazy person yells at you, or if someone is rude to you at the grocery store etc. It's easy for me to just shrug these instances off and recognize its that persons experience and I don't need to react or get involved in their negative outlook- I can blissfully be on my way.
But for those that are more involved and close to my life...it seams nearly impossible to deflect their emotions, intentions, actions and or behaviors. And now I'm wondering if it's even possible? I do believe that when you have such a strong iron clad sense of self it really shouldn't matter what other people are doing or feeling around you. You are secure in your own little world. But is that not just another defense mechanism meant to keep people out?
Is it even human to not be affected by the actions of others? On one hand it's something I would really like to master; there is nothing worse then sitting around feeling bad based on actions that are completely beyond your control, but, on the other hand, people I have been involved with have accused me of being too emotionally cut off. I'm not sure it's the same thing, but I'm pondering it all today? The ability to confidently and honestly let people in, but not be too devastated if this experience does not go the way you had envisioned.
I'm not even sure if this makes any sense. But I do know that, everyday I'm striving to be a more evolved and happier person. Can any of you live your life in an honest way and not be affected by the actions of others? Can you truly allow?